All this time, I lived without knowing what a precious person I was. watched a person who thinks about me as more precious than I did, and works hard to protect me, I had no idea That I would receive love like this from anyone. I thought I should help him, that I have to take better care of myself. So that person will worry less, that he can feel safer. You probably don’t know. What a grateful and happy time I’m having right now. I also learning a lot. That love is without any grudges, without any reservation, a heart pouring everything out for one person.
Figuring out how to love yourself is one of the many parts of the great Self-Development Journey. It is comprised of realizing where you have been, how you currently are, and what space you would like to be.
Self-love is not simply enjoying your looks or being happy with the attitude you walk around with. Instead, it is seeing how you can be greater because you are always learning. It is wanting to pour out more love and positivity to others because you have given yourself so much. Self-love is a sense of peace that only can stay when you have reached your divine serenity.
where to begin?
1. Find your tribe.
Surround yourself with people who love you and support you in your wildest dreams. And be protective of these people. You’re only as good as the company you keep – so keep the good ones around and let the bad ones go (without any guilt).
It’s a hell of a lot easier to pursue yourself when you’ve got some cheerleaders pushing you in that direction. Your tribe is what will keep you going when those self-doubts sneak up on you. A great listener, open mind, compassionate core, and inwardly or outwardly creative.
They’re the ones who will remind you why you should love yourself and of appreciate all your awesome accomplishments.
2. Hang on to what you love.
Take the thing that makes you happy and treasure it. Grow it. Never let it go. Completely drown yourself in it. Because chances are the thing you love gives your life meaning. It’s your purpose and your love of that hobby, job, or interest is a sign pointing you in the right direction.
3. Challenge yourself.
Some of the most rewarding lessons come from the most uncomfortable of places.
I had gone so far out of my comfort zone and came out alive. I proved to myself that I can rely on myself even when I didn’t have a clue what I was doing. But I learned. And I grew. And I took that feeling and used it to push forward through more new experiences. Which upped my confidence again. It’s a beautiful, cyclical thing.
4. Take inventory.
On the hard days, when you find it almost impossible to believe in yourself, make a list. Take inventory of everything you’re grateful for and appreciate. They can be even the most basic of things.
For example, if I was just not feeling the self-love vibes, I’d start small. I’d appreciate my legs for the strength they give me to walk. And my arms because they allow me to tote my niece around.
The same theory applies to just about anything. If you can’t appreciate yourself on Monday for your productivity, appreciate yourself for your creativity instead. Then circle back Tuesday and try again. And appreciate yourself for that too.
5. Keep it real.
Keep it real, You know yourself the best, so trust yourself. Let your instincts lead the way. I promise, they never steer you wrong if you’re willing to listen. And once you see that I’m right, you’ll see that you’re right. And what does that build? T – R – U – S – T! (in yourself.) And when you learn to trust yourself and your instincts, you’ll be making decisions with the confidence of a queen.
Love is hard, And loving yourself will be the hardest journey of them all. It’s a continuous and conscious effort to swim against the current, against the definition of beauty, against the scale, against societal constructs and gender roles, against expectations, against insecurities and self-doubt. But it will always be a fight worth fighting. Because you are your most important relationship.